Learning to name it.
Learning to process our emotions in a healthy way was not the norm or taught to us as children.
As a result, many of us grow up turning to other vices in order to help us cope with emotional distressing moments.  I learned to cope with the hard moments of my life by overeating.  I gained a lot of weight, and didn't get rid of the stress.
It has taken many years going through God's healing process were I can finally take time, stop and begin to identify and deal with the real issues, instead of running to food for false comfort.
Some of the steps I've learned;
1. It only takes one question to start the identifying process. 
- Why am I.....? Sad, angry, depressed...etc.
2. Taking the next moment to breathe and ask God for His peace.
3  Write it down- Learning to journal has given me a way to begin to peel back        my feelings, and get to the true emotion that pushing the feeling.  Just because
    you feel something that feels real, doesn't mean it is.

Once I am able to get to the truth, then I can go to Father God and His Word knowing what promise to look for so I can gain the peace He promised He give us.  

The Truth about "The Struggle"
The over used saying about "The Struggle being real" in fact is not real at all.
Our life is a combination of all the choices that have been made.  Early choices made in childhood and formative years while in total dependence on adults made by adults, gave way to us either having a firm foundation for success, or that left us in lack.
We can not go back and relive those years, but we have total the responsibility now to make the right choices that will cause us to walk in the success God desires for us.  Simply put, make the choice, have the success.  No matter what it is, the struggle is more about you choosing, and less about the situation at hand.